Sometimes, it can feel like you’re the only single-fish adrift in a sea of couples. It’s easy to feel lost when everyone else is coupled up, but just keep swimming– and you’ll find the one for you, or they’ll find you.

I’ve seen many people rush into relationships after just ending one. Yes, life can be extremely lonely and depressing (even if you are coupled up), but you don’t want to rush into something with the first attractive person you see. There’s a good chance there is better out there–someone better for you. Although you might want a mate, you might want to get married, you might want children, it’s worth the wait to find the right person. All in good time, it’ll work out. 🙂

Be a strong, independent person. Also, this will attract other strong, independent people.

Focus on what YOU enjoy (whether it’s reading, clubbing, traveling, etc). Being single is sometimes the greatest opportunity to really get to know yourself better. You will have more time to yourself.

Get involved in hobbies or sports (writing, running, dancing, cooking, etc). Keep busy with things you like doing!

Live with confidence–Be confident in yourself. Also, you’ll attract other people that way. Someone’s sure to see what a catch you are. 🙂

Keep looking ahead. Think: present & future. Think about what you need to do in the present to get to the future you want. Only look to the past to learn from mistakes and to reminisce on memories.

Don’t get consumed by your ex! Don’t let exes get in the way of your relationships, interests, thoughts, dreams, et cetera.

Put yourself first. Until you meet that very special person you want to couple with.

Stay positive. Enjoy your life–whether single or not.

Flirt without shame or apology. Have fun on the field or off the field! If someone responds in a rude manner or doesn’t respond to your playful fun, don’t give it a second thought. Some people live life too seriously. Is that what you want to do?

Laugh often & with reckless abandon. Whether alone or with others, who cares! Laugh about it all.

Dance like no one is watching when everyone is watching. If you don’t dance, well, you should! It’s freeing! If you’re really stubborn on this one, then try some sort of exercise. The endorphins do wonders.

Know how awesome you are–if someone doesn’t appreciate what you put out there, it’s no skin off your back. That’s not the person for you.

Love yourself and respect yourself. If you’re in need of an ego boost, say all the things you love about yourself to yourself in the mirror or create a list of everything you like about yourself.

Appreciate this time to really get to know yourself. Consider keeping a record of your thoughts by journaling.

Connect with your family and friends. Chances are, they’re always there for you.

Treat yourself now and again. To that new watch, that shopping spree, that cappuccino…whatever you want! Treat yourself right. You know just what you like.

Put yourself out there. You never know who you might meet if you just put yourself out there! Go to that party you were invited to, go to that concert, check out that new club…you never know what you’ll find. Or who. 😉

Smile and say hello often–and yes, to strangers. But not the strangelooking ones (ones that give you the creeps).

Don’t overthink things. If you called or texted a person because you wanted to, don’t overthink your actions. Don’t overthink it if that person doesn’t respond. You wanted to do it, and you did. If you don’t get a response, don’t sweat it!

If you want something, go get it! It’s your life, you make all the decisions. You decide how you’re going to live and what your life story is going to be. Whether you are single or in a relationship, live your life to your standards. Nothing is ever too late.

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